How to become a great woman next to a great man? Three steps to happiness
In a happy relationship, a man often says: “With her, I felt like a real man.” She, despite the lack of model beauty, became his “real woman.” Cute smiles over his shoulder and endlessly believes in his ability. He, in turn, is doing everything to adequately bear the title of “the best man in the world.” Not about you? Photo: Depositphotos Good. Let’s look into another apartment. This “man on the couch” was told yesterday that he was a bummer and a duffer. Today in the morning they started sawing for “terrible habits”, and the next day he will be confused by a lack of money. It is not surprising that he fulfills his “duties of a husband” in family relations by no more than five percent. He ignores the desires and requests of his wife. Initially, with her attitude and behavior, she “weeds out” in him even the slightest desire to please and protect her. Is sad Think, and when is it easier and easier for you to fulfill someone’s request: when you are admired and talked about your extraordinary abilities, or when you express doubts and criticize? That’s the same … Your thoughts and words can work wonders. Try a man, even if he is completely … well, very far from the image of a “hero”, to say that he is powerful, smart and beautiful. He will immediately get his “knightly armor”, turn around his shoulders and become a couple of centimeters higher. Say that “he can do everything” and he “can do everything”! Do not believe? Look through the biographies of great people … Vera Muromtseva-Bunina was the wife of Ivan Alekseevich Bunin, and these words are addressed to her: “Without you, I would not have written anything. Would be lost! ”Mercedes Barcha Pardo, the wife of the legendary Nobel laureate Gabriel García Márquez, didn’t saw her husband, but, as she could, managed her two sons. To feed the children, she sold out “unnecessary things” and did everything so that nothing would interfere with her husband. As a result, Marquez became a great writer. Clementine Churchill, the wife of the well-known British Prime Minister, received him with all the habits that were not most convenient for living together: love for whiskey, cigars, gluttony and gambling. She herself had a bright personality, but she never pressed her husband. Winston Churchill himself considered marriage the happiest and most joyful event of his life. Clara Jane Ford was not afraid to marry a young mechanic with a salary of eleven dollars a week. For several hours, she held a kerosene lamp above his head while her husband invented a new type of engine. Henry Ford later said that in the event of a repetition of life, he was ready to be anyone, but “if only my wife was next to me.” So, we found out that your words, thoughts, behavior and create the life you want. You want a “lazy male body” next to you, more often tell him about it. If you want to live with a strong, energetic and successful man, you need to get in the right mood. Take a pen, paper, or sit near a computer. We will put everything in its place. Only three steps! Photo: Depositphotos Step No. 1. Write down what qualities of your man admire you or, in other words, something that does not allow you to doubt his male essence. To get started, write at least 5-10 points. If there are none, ask yourself why are you “killing time” next to such a person? Let’s hope that everything is in order and proceed to step No. 2. Step No. 2. Remember and describe three situations in which he most clearly showed these qualities. It doesn’t matter when it happened, but it is important that it happens with your participation. Write, what did you feel at that moment? How did you understand that you are next to a man with a capital letter? Faithfulness with the most sincere admiration is welcome. Step number 3. Your story is an ode “about the heroic deed of your hero.” Always keep it in your head. Let the feelings of pride, euphoria and faith in his strength never leave you and become a constant background of your relationship. Remember the state when you were overwhelmed with happiness from the thought that this person chose you and is ready for feats for your sake. He is a hero! He is the best, strong, generous, kind, reliable. In a word – the most … the most … the most … Generously praise, endlessly admire, speak encouraging words and thank your hero. Be sincere! If you squeezed an ode out of yourself, rehearsed an admiring glance, and the next day you got nothing and started with a reproach: “I wrote you a whole ode, but you …”, then nothing will work out, such is the psychology of relationships. What you think, say and want to be permanent, real and create a joyful, happy atmosphere around you. Photo: Depositphotos Give a man time to readjust. If you believe in it, then believe with all your heart. He can do it! He will succeed! Even if he does not believe in himself. Believe for two! And the universe will generously thank you for your patience, love, kindness and ability to joyfully accept life as it is.