How to find a husband via the Internet? But all I am is a solid link: this happiness has been given to me!
Natural and not vulgar at the same time. You must be inwardly liberated, interested, and have a benevolent disposition towards the person you are talking to. Good food and a glass of wine contribute to a pleasant pastime and make a person indulgent to the shortcomings of the vis. If you are hungry after work, order yourself the dish that you know like the back of your hand and enjoy it. Do not take a cup of coffee in order to procrastinate it for an hour and a half, struggling with the excruciating feeling of hunger, out of fear to introduce it to unnecessary expenses, or being afraid not to please your healthy appetite. Both are not really a problem at all. Just in such cases, be prepared to offer him to share the costs. Attention! Do not pay for yourself after the business analysis of the general check, namely to split the bill in half! And it doesn’t matter that your salad was twice as cheap as its steak. By the reaction of the partner you can always understand (even if for some reason it passed by in the process of correspondence) whether you are dealing with a follower of the patriarchy, a macho man or an advanced unisex who doesn’t think of a different life for himself, like everyone equally, everyone has the same rights, etc. Offer to break the score sincerely, not mocking or insisting, but in a friendly way. And draw conclusions that you have in the diachrony of living together, in synchrony, at least you will not remain hungry, which is already good. Photo: Depositphotos What to talk about at the table and how to avoid the first awkwardness? First, say “you.” This always mobilizes both and helps to maintain a certain distance, and, accordingly, the limits of decency. Secondly, use your knowledge of it from correspondence as baggage. Unless, of course, he is ahead of you in this. If he sets the tone, then you have to answer and tell about yourself. This is not scary. It is important what exactly you think about yourself. If you are tormented by the consciousness that it is humiliating, terrible, and generally worse to seek a husband on the Internet, then these thoughts will be subconsciously read by counterparts. And already for one it will in every way take revenge. For, reckoning yourself among the losers, you just recorded him in the same ranks. How else did you end up together in the same submarine? If you regard your fate as a mature choice of an adult, as a happy opportunity to get to know an interesting person, meet and make friends with someone outstanding, then soon your counterpart will be almost sure that he has such a talent. Tell yourself the sparkling truth about yourself without getting lost from the questions: “How so beautiful and still not married or already divorced?” In order to sound convincing, try to answer these questions intelligently first, without falling into a fair criticism of the opposite gender or derogatory self-flagellation. Look for objective reasons. Photo: Depositphotos For example, you still had no time to think about marriage, because you were seriously engaged in science or pursuing a career. What, this is not about you at all? Then, maybe you were already married, safely divorced today, have children whose upbringing you were completely absorbed to this day? And “that day and time has come” when, having sorted out pressing problems and previous experience, we felt the strength and, most importantly, the desire to bestow the life of a worthy person with our presence and warmth. Therefore, you are in search of a partner. Finally, you can half-jokingly boast of good biological material, thanks to which even now you feel like a “young green caterpillar”. Yes, yes, it is for this reason that you only recently realized your self-sufficiency and, as a result, the desire to find a husband, family and children. I emphasize that recognition of one’s loneliness is not a crime. And does not make you vulnerable. On the contrary, trying to deny this fact is the same as rebelling against the laws of being. You remember, God created Adam and Eve, and not one of them, and by no means a self-sufficient monster. You can object, how are monks and nuns? The answer is simple: all these people are by no means alone, firstly, and at the same time, they are still not self-sufficient, and secondly. They are not alone, if only because they are constantly in communion with God. And they realize their lack of self-sufficiency much better than you and me, because their life is a ministry and love for the Lord, which is much more than any other kind of love and human relationship. Now that we’ve completely figured out your status, we’ll deal with the interlocutor. Both he and you have the right to be interested in what is curious to you, but without addiction. For example, if he is an avid traveler, gently ask, “where was you, what did you see, and whom did you love?”, Not pedaling any of these aspects, but giving him the opportunity to independently choose which of the topics touched upon and with which fullness.