How to find a husband via the Internet? “All this jazz …”
Suppose you spent a lot of time methodically and persistently studying virtual and real male images; became a regular in a good half of the city’s drinking and coffee establishments. They even compiled their own classification of male characters stratified by the main characteristics and features. And all this is just to make sure again and again: it’s not that! If you are inclined to look for reasons in the Transcendental, then you will probably think about it: perhaps God has other plans for you? Maybe you are still not married because you have no humility? And all that is required is to accept the present state of things. Who knows, maybe that is when happiness will overtake you when you are not waiting for it at all? It may turn out that everything is exactly the opposite. Do you not fully believe in yourself and in the success of a hopeless cause? Doing all this simply because you gave the floor to someone close to you, or so that you are finally left behind with sympathetic looks, worthless advice and calls: “But you can try!” And you understand the meaninglessness of these searches. And there is no one to breathe life, hope and faith in the cause, which are engaged! Or maybe you are so confident in yourself that you understand: there can be no equal and really free man because you cannot be by definition. Unequal marriage you do not need! Photo: Depositphotos You achieved so much on your own! You have a house, a car, and finally, completely wealthy children. And you have achieved all this well-being yourself. Everything that you have is very dear to you, also because a double or even a triple price has been paid for everything! And you do not want to share what you have gained with a person who is not able to appreciate the effort. Here with equal you could try. But the irony lies precisely in the fact that this probably already has everything, including even his mistress. If he has everything and at the same time he is also safely divorced, then he is as pessimistic about all women as you are about them, men. Your position, status, property and peace – these are the main whales of an already held and established life. And if you even hypothetically imagine someone nearby, then you will minimally need to part with peace! And this is really quite tiring when, in essence, a stranger is always there. Especially if you have a long experience of living alone on the principle of “own mistress.” If you look into yourself, you will probably realize that your peace and settled life are more expensive than any possible changes, even good ones. Having a huge experience of failures and hard work, you came to the conclusion that the main thing is not to be watched – neither in the house, nor in the soul. Yes, you are more than this and do not allow it! It is useful to recall your feelings when you are in a museum. You are afraid to once again move, to make some awkward movement, so as not to accidentally hurt or drop, or break something very valuable, or not to inherit and not to get dirty. Tell me, “Do not touch the exhibits with your hands!” – is this not your motto? Think about it, because order is death, and life is always a certain degree of entropy. It may also be that you were absolutely happy in your marriage. But by the will of fate were left without a husband, wonderful and beautiful. And now, life has given me a meeting with a good man, loving, ready for anything for you and children, but clearly losing to your one and only husband. I think you need to realize that it is impossible for a living person to win this competition with a person who is already in another world. The psychological trauma from the loss of a loved one is the greater, the better he actually was. And even more so, the idealization of the image after its departure is characteristic of you. Photo: Depositphotos If you also still live with delightful memories of a once happy life, then your current partner simply has no chance to please you. He is doomed to lose. If you really do not want loneliness for the rest of your life, start with a dirty but clean slate. Try to evaluate this person without comparing with the previous one, but by yourself. What is important to you in the end? It may be so, of course, that after making this huge journey on the Internet and not finding anyone suitable, you were able to look differently at real people around. And now we are ready to admit that some of the closest associates are much better than all the Internet heroes combined.