What do we put in the meaning of the relationship? The Tale of False Goals and Lost Values
And more often than not, in search of this meaning, we withdraw into ourselves. Instead of talking, sorting out what’s the matter, we are silent and are not trying to fix something, or we are trying, but not mutually. We believe that it is easier to tear everything apart than to contribute your own work and build something more solid, something that was before. We think that it is better to immediately push away if it does not work out, and it is easier to blame the other than to try to figure out your own mistakes.We hide our emotions quite skillfully, not realizing that everything that we achieve in life does not make sense if it is not shared with anyone. Sometimes we run away from ourselves, not realizing that there is nowhere to run, and sooner or later we will be left completely among many necessary and unnecessary things. We are flying, in a hurry to live, or rather, to arrange our lives, chasing after a career, money, respect in society, forgetting about such simple things as friendship, love, loyalty, interest in each other. Indeed, it is on such a foundation that relations are built. We are so selfish not only in relation to someone, but even in ourselves. Trying to change another person without understanding, or maybe it’s worth something better to change yourself first? Maybe you should learn to perceive people as they are, and then they themselves, without noticing it, will begin to change without any effort. It is only worth learning to talk with each other about different things, to take into account opinions, not to argue, thereby summoning another to a duel of arguments, without achieving anything. We constantly conduct any battles, sometimes without understanding, but is it worth it? In order to survive – yes, it’s worth it. But on the other hand, we do not have time to truly live, to love. We spend time quarreling, not trying to understand each other, just to show our innocence. And with the same push away a loved one. But we proudly go with our heads raised, in a hurry to reach new heights, hiding behind them a real state of mind. What’s the point? You won’t run away from loneliness anyway, and what you have achieved loses its meaning without a loved one. Everything becomes a stranger, and I want to ask a question: “Why? For whom? ”Looking back, we will see only emptiness and hear only an echo from our words. Chasing the goal of “surviving,” we lose the most precious thing we have, destroying everything with our arrogance, disrespect for interests. We are ready to run away anywhere, just to not talk to the wall. Building a career, developing, achieving your goals – this is not bad at all. The bad thing is that by doing all this, we forget about those who are close by, and when we catch up, we try to hold on, not realizing that it’s too late. Looking back, we see a person who is not at all familiar to us and again lock ourselves in ourselves, flee from ourselves. I wonder how long we have enough? After all, the main point of the relationship is to support and help each other. And not in leaving yourself. Do not forget about it!