Some differences between a man and a woman, or How to become happier together?
Glamorous magazines replete with such information and abound in various types of talk shows, but knowledge does not seem to help us learn to better understand the relationship between men and women. Meanwhile … Everything is much “worse” and deeper. According to statistics, more than 60% of all couples in the Russian Federation are divorced in the first ten years of marriage. And they get divorced, as in that film, because “they did not agree on the characters” – they did not understand each other.And rather, not so much for reasons of betrayal or drunkenness, for example, which are a consequence, but simply because of a misunderstanding and rejection of each other’s physiology, psychology and mentality. What do women and men most often complain about? 1. “He is all day (all the time, all weekends, etc.) lying on the couch.” In fact, most often this is just a ladies’ exaggeration that women adore, and “all day” and “round the clock” – this is most likely “in the evenings”, “on Sunday”, “sometimes”. (Honestly, I did not know a single man who could spend all day lying on the couch). Most women do not understand that the distribution, expenditure and replenishment of our forces proceeds slightly differently. For example, a woman can, without interruption and pause, doing, as a rule, not the most time-consuming and requiring significant physical and mental efforts affairs, as they say, “spin” all day and lie down to rest only when she goes to bed. A man, on the contrary, as a rule, is engaged in intense physical and mental activity, by the evening often simply having spent all his strength, which requires him to take a long rest to replenish his strength. In other words, we are sprinters, you are stayers. And this is our nature. 2. “She is a fool, she (the situation in the country, us men) does not understand me.” Indeed, it is as difficult for a woman to understand a man as a man is a woman. And when she begins to insist, insist on her opinion, or just with a serious look to talk about something other than family, for example, politics or football, it turns out, at best, naive and funny. At worst it leads to quarrels, scandals and even wars. The fact is that women are not stupid at all, but only reason differently. Men think globally, on a grand scale and often hypothetically. Women are practically, in detail, in the aspect of their family, kind, their community. Well, for us men, often a fool (fool) is anyone who thinks differently, regardless of gender – which, of course, is also very “smart”. 3. “He is greedy.” This claim could be put on the first place in the long list of women’s claims and even made the main slogan of many disappointed ladies. And often greed in the candy-bouquet period in the family period in a volatile female brain is quickly melted into frugality, thrift and prudence. And he is not necessarily greedy. He either does not attach the same importance as you to all these gifts, going to restaurants with an unfamiliar woman; either not an oligarch, or of modern views, considers women to be equal – the same people as men; or does not want the material to occupy such an important place in your relationship; or you send him signals, but he’s lazy, he doesn’t perceive them … In a word, everything is simple and understandable for women: he didn’t take him to an expensive restaurant, he didn’t spend money on a bouquet of 21 red roses – he had to guess, he didn’t Maldives – means misery, and the point. And for men it’s somehow more complicated and more diverse – the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 33rd … 4. “She is a log in bed.” Many men sincerely do not understand that male and female sexuality are fundamentally different and that a woman needs more time to relax in bed, to want the same as her man. That a man, like a match, flared up and went out, and a woman, like a tinder, she needed more time to catch fire. But then it will burn longer than a match. Where a man seeks, first of all, physical saturation, a woman seeks manifestations of affection, spiritual unity, gentle words and confirmation of man’s love. To change places in twenty years. 5. “He does not help me with the child.” Another lady’s exaggeration. It helps. But, of course, not as my wife would have liked. And she wants him to love, walk and cherish their offspring in the same way: just as often get up to him at night, just lisp and rush with him like a chicken with an egg. A woman sincerely does not understand that a man doesn’t have that very, very strong maternal instinct like her. And that in order for fatherly feelings to wake up in the spouse, it takes more than one year. And that a man can never be compared with the strength of his love for his offspring with a woman. This is also nature.