How to live a woman after a divorce?
A woman complains that she constantly compares a new man with an ex-husband in favor of the latter, while spending time together with a new boyfriend, an ex-spouse does not get out of her head. A more detailed analysis confirms that she has strong feelings for her ex-husband. Say to yourself: “Stop!” Divorce in psychology is classified as a crisis situation and takes third place after death and imprisonment. Emotional trauma during divorce has a great impact on a person, often depriving him of the ability to function in the previous mode. What happens in practice? A woman, shocked by divorce, cannot accept the real fact of a break in relations. For some reason, she probably loves her husband, is afraid of loneliness or, finally, got used to him. If a man acts as an initiator, a woman may not be prepared for such life tests. In cases where the cause of the divorce was the spouse’s illness, infertility, loss of social status, the injured party is left alone with its problems. Many women are unbearably in the process of experiencing divorce. They begin to actively add replacement elements to their lives – they dramatically change their appearance, begin to actively relax in entertainment venues, and are looking for new acquaintances. But time after time a woman fails: a bright appearance does not bring joy, and a new relationship does not stick together. In such a situation, it is important to say to yourself: “Stop.” And ask yourself: “What am I trying to run away from?” The answer will not be long in coming – it will be the pain of loss, an unbearable feeling of resentment and betrayal, rejection of my loneliness. And it becomes vitally important to live these feelings, express all the anger and resentment that torment the soul, mourn your loneliness and accept the real fact of the existence of your life exactly as it is today. Stress during a divorce In most cases, a tense atmosphere reigns in the family before a divorce. Various situations can occur that exacerbate the conflict: domestic quarrels, betrayals, deceit. But despite this, for the party who wants to save the marriage, the gap will still be a big shock. Severe cases are when stress becomes depressed. The following signs testify to this: – a strong sense of resentment in minor situations; – a woman loses interest in life; – a sense of hopelessness; – reduced self-esteem; – anxiety, thoughts of suicide; – withdrawal into addiction. It is important to distinguish the lack of mood in a divorce from depression. Depressive state, as a rule, is impossible not to notice. In such cases, you should immediately contact a specialist. How to help yourself during a divorce? The stress of breaking up must be overcome. This will take time and effort. To alleviate the condition, it is recommended: 1. To protect children from problems with divorce, the division of property and the clarification of relations. This is important to preserve the psyche of the child. 2. If depressive symptoms persist within a month, consult a specialist.