Why is the best husband “overeating pears”, or How to survive the breakup?
It’s always like a fiery hell, it’s always a catastrophe, powerlessness, this is a state of shock: you have grown together at a special level, you have intertwined ancestors and stories, you have a common past, you know the smallest shades of each other … And then it all breaks up, fragments fly, and you stand in the rain from the fragments, and there is nothing to hide behind. Immediately I recall my own mistakes: somewhere I didn’t do it, somewhere I was self-obsessed, somewhere else. You start eating elbows, rushing about – how is it, what is it? What now? The first reaction is a shock. It’s rare when there is instant emptiness, everything is so lively that you watch in horror how it dies – right from the inside. This is the time of tantrums, resentment, this is the time of tinctures of motherwort and alcohol, this is the time “I started smoking again”, this is the time when everything falls out of hand. And there is a sensation of flame, this is a fire on which you are executed as a heretic, and you feel, you all very clearly feel. Belief in a brighter future burns with you. And then the void begins. Emptiness is like an empty apartment, emptiness from within, emptiness of meanings. You become a collector of emptiness, wherever you are – everywhere there is emptiness, and now you are a collector of holes and voids. The main hole is inside you, you are so empty that it seems that you are about to fall into this abyss, bend in and be like a new kind of organism … What can I say? This is a process. Time heals, it really heals, but if you have no time to wait, then you can implement non-standard types of treatment. The best thing is if you have lost financial support. What will happen there? You will go look for some work and soon forget what kind of holes are inside. What other holes? It is very good to do moderately hard physical labor, requiring good work on the ego. For example, to get a waiter or to go as a baker, all the romantic stuff will get out of your head very quickly. Physical labor in general is very good for personality development – immediately new horizons open up, you think: well, why am I so sad? There are things much, much worse. If you do not have financial problems, then it makes sense to go to Africa. In the most non-tourist and without any translator, just go to some Malawi, live on a baobab and swim in the river with aquarium fish. It will be very useful and very memorable. If you want to avoid extreme measures, and the classic nagging no longer works, then just sit down and remember your life purpose. Remember, you probably have such a goal. Or at least it was until you got into this “happy” relationship. Then sit down and draw strongholds: what this road will hold onto. Done – and go! Yes, first by the ant, then by the tortoise, and further, and further, crawl, crawl, go! Then you will turn around and be able to consider: what a wonderful life pattern! In practice, it turns out that the phrase “All this is for the better” works like a clock: even if you manage to accomplish a fatal thing – this is a lesson, and like any lesson, it leads to your development. And the husband? .. He is not a bastard of bastards, he is not a scoundrel of scoundrels, he remains the same person, your patterns just now differ – you should not measure their beauty. Thank you for being in your life and all the best. Wish him delicious pears and go plant your own garden.