Is happiness possible without a man?
In one magazine, my attention was attracted by a reader’s letter, “Comfortably Living Alone.” In it, the author criticizes family life, and in contrast describes all the benefits of loneliness. The girl did not skimp on stories about a difficult family life with detailed descriptions of all the hardships and deprivations. The husband is described in the story as a big child, unable to warm up his own dinner on his own, and the children are mini-kings to whom they bring and serve. In general, the image of a wife is associated with a maid, a cook who does not have the right to her personal joys. In contrast to all the terrible suffering, describes the life of a lonely girl who, almost like in the movie “Girls”, says: “But I generally will not go to get married! After all, one is better! I want halva, I want gingerbread. ” There is complete freedom and relaxation from all the above concerns. Life is described in pink, as if all the problems come from the family. After reading the letter, to call such a girl happy is very difficult. After all, she does not live and does not enjoy her life, but is trying to actively protect her loneliness (even writes in magazines). Are there other girls, free and happy? Definitely eat. They, unlike the heroine described above, do not fight with windmills and do not prove anything to anyone. They just live and rejoice, realizing their creative potential (they are fond of cooking, fine art, photography and many others). Is it possible to achieve this state? Yes, after taking certain steps: 1. Free the cabinet! Everyone can have their skeletons in the closet, but it is better to clear a place for new interesting desires and dreams. Defending the “right to loneliness” may indicate an attempt to escape from pain. Perhaps there is something worth completing and letting go. The past often prevents us from moving forward. 2. Forgiving married women, and especially girlfriends, and allowing them to live their own lives. Stop pitying them! Yes, it is possible that friends could choose someone better or also be a free artist, but they made their choice. And since you cannot change the situation here, you can always change your attitude towards it! 3. Changing your social circle. If most of the time you spend in telephone conversations with two married friends, then it is time to urgently change this. Expand your interests, visit new places, meet and chat with new people! 4. Making yourself and your life the main focus of your attention! Where your attention is directed, your energy goes there. Now almost everything that surrounds you every day is fighting for your attention (advertising, TV, the Internet and even your married friends). It is important to understand that giving energy to them, you do not live and do not enjoy your life. Direct attention, love and energy to yourself. And when this energy becomes a lot, you can easily share it with others. 5. Becoming grateful! Gratitude carries a whole charge of positive energy. If you attended some kind of webinar, or went to some interesting lesson, or the store consultant simply amazingly understood and suggested what you need, don’t skimp on gratitude. Say sincerely from the heart: “Thank you!” Or write a review, because this will not only please the person, but also charge you, provided that you do it with all your heart! Alas, people become stingy with positive emotions. It seems to them that if they share their joy or gratitude, they will have little left. But this is not so! The more you give, the more you get, and it works. If now you choose loneliness for yourself, then this is your choice, and you can choose to be happy or unhappy in this. And if the choice is upsetting, feel free to change it! Choose what will bring you joy!